Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Pub Going, Loose and Forward

This consortium is the perfect example of how a small snowball of an idea can gain momentum throughout the nation and grow into a giant, all-engulfing, avalanche of pink chaddis to the Ram Sene Office in Bangalore. For once, such a below-the-belt tactic seems totally fair and sensible. Hence, I am now a proud member of the Consortium of pub going, loose and forward women. I have joined their facebook group and asked all my friends, cousins and anybody whom I know to join the campaign. I read in the TOI today that the Ram Sene's Bangalore unit chief Vasanth Kumar Bhavani has said about the campaign that, "It's a free country. However, we would like to know the background of these people since nobody from good families would resort to such cheap steps". Yeah, you are right Mr. Bhavani. People from good families only beat up women and drag them by the hair.
I don't want to question how a celebration of love on a particular day can be a part of only western culture. I don't want to start discussions about why women should have the right to drink, go to pubs, and socialise without the fear of being beaten up by hooligans who want to sudharo every female in the country. I don't want to ask these hooligans that what happens to their moral policing when a woman is raped, abused or molested. All I want to say is, oppose them, stand against them, fight them back.
This Valentine's I am going to raise a toast for all the men I know, who are real gentlemen, and who support and take care of women around them. For my brother, who helps my sis-in-law around the house with every possible work, unasked; who took me out to celebrate in a pub when I got my first salary; who really respects women. For my Dad, who brings me a bottle of white wine whenever I ask him; who has never had a problem with my dressing sense; who really respects women. For my friend Amit, who pulls out chairs and holds open doors for women no matter what their age is; who would make any girl feel like a princess just because he thinks women deserve it; who really respects women. For GO, who accompanies me to pubs even when he is not much into drinking; who gladly lets me be the person I am even if he doesn't agree with me about something; who really respects women. I will a raise a toast to all of them not because I feel they are going out of their way for the women in their lives but because these men do it without the airs of doing women a favor. They do it because that was how they were brought up.
Go ahead, raise a toast this Valentine's to all such men in your life and to every woman on the planet :-)

11 comments:

mister avant garde said...

last weekend, my frens n me were happy high in a pub... when in walked the cops of all the ppl to sudharofy us n keep a strict vigil on our dancing feet... now there's a clamp on dancing and i'm darn sure, left to the govt, they'll impose a clamp on going to a pub too... scares me shit what's happenin to the place we live in ... jeezus ...

you know wot we should all do? all o us shuld send smelly pink chaddis to mutalik n his croonies, use it as masks to cover their faces, n whip 'em, ruddy louts that they are ...

Spica said...

You know, I hated V-day till these idiots came along - I used to think it was just a commercial stint. Now, nothing would give me greater pleasure than to celebrate it with full gusto!

And yes, he believes it's a free country, whuch is why he's forcing his views on others??

Vaisakh P S said...

I totally agree with you guys and I am also encouraging my friends and colleagues to join the campaign against these so called "upholders of Hindu culture"

Anand said...

The chaddi thing is grt. Hope it sets an example for other so called moral a##hole# around.
Best of luck.
Anand. :-)

anshul bhardwaj said...

Well said Nikita!!!


:-)

Nikita said...

@mister avant garde
I am shocked to know that. Are you sure they were not there to stop any hooligans from bugging women?? Ah, I still have hopes from our administration. Guess, I should grow up!

@Spica
I never hated the V-day but never really celebrated it either. This year is going to be different :-)

Nikita said...

@Vaisakh
Thanks for your support :-)

@Anand
Thanks! I have noticed that men are supporting this thing big time. I am glad that most young men dont have such unfair ideas of judging women.

@Anshul Bhardwaj
Thanks! Will look forward to more comments from you in the future :-)

unsungpsalm said...

I hear they're sending Sarees as return gifts... Hmmm...


So if I sent a Chaddi, they'd send me a Saree? That CANNOT be in line with Indian Culture!!!

pseudo intellectual said...

this is ur best post till date. i LOVED it. it's a relief that normal, caring men are still around to make us believe the world ain't such a bad place after all.

Nikita said...

@unsungpsalm
Haha... yes, that cannot be in line with Indian tradition. However, I hope that this spirit to fight and give it back to the moral police stays and only grows. Long Live The Consortium :-)

@pseudointellectual
Hey, thanks girl. I hope to write even better posts in future just to read that comment from you again :-)

arshat.chaudhary said...

The pink chaddi campaign is great.. I was wondering if there is anyway the youth of the country can let them know wht we think of their cheap antics..